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Do you think Focus on the Family is promoting is Child abuse?
Here is a quote from Focus on the Families James Dobson To me these are some very perverted and sick things to be promoting and calling traditional family values.
"It is not necessary to beat the child into submission; a little bit of pain goes a long way for a young child. However, the spanking should be of sufficient magnitude to cause the child to cry genuinely." (Dare to Discipline, p.7.)
(when it comes to crying genuinely)”Yes, I believe there should be a limit. As long as the tears represent a genuine release of emotion, they should be permitted to fall. But crying quickly changes from inner sobbing to an expression of protest... Real crying usually lasts two minutes or less but may continue for five. After that point, the child is merely complaining, and the change can be recognized in the tone and intensity of his voice. I would require him to stop the protest crying, usually by offering him a little more of whatever caused the original tears. In younger children, crying can easily be stopped by getting them interested in something else."
"It is not necessary to beat the child into submission; a little bit of pain goes a long way for a young child. However, the spanking should be of sufficient magnitude to cause the child to cry genuinely." (Dare to Discipline, p.7.)
(when it comes to crying genuinely)”Yes, I believe there should be a limit. As long as the tears represent a genuine release of emotion, they should be permitted to fall. But crying quickly changes from inner sobbing to an expression of protest... Real crying usually lasts two minutes or less but may continue for five. After that point, the child is merely complaining, and the change can be recognized in the tone and intensity of his voice. I would require him to stop the protest crying, usually by offering him a little more of whatever caused the original tears. In younger children, crying can easily be stopped by getting them interested in something else."
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Yes.
Smacking is a lazy way out.
Positive parenting takes more work and self control, but it is worth it. Teaching your kids to respond to adverse situations with violence is a cop out.
I have smacked my kids, and I know it has been when I have been too damn lazy to be a better parent.
I try very hard to invest more time and energy into other methods...and as a result I am raising 2 gentle and caring boys, who will hopefully grown into gentlemen.
My husband was smacked and beaten in the name of Christian parenting...it has done him untold damage and his relationship with his parents is strained.
Smacking is a lazy way out.
Positive parenting takes more work and self control, but it is worth it. Teaching your kids to respond to adverse situations with violence is a cop out.
I have smacked my kids, and I know it has been when I have been too damn lazy to be a better parent.
I try very hard to invest more time and energy into other methods...and as a result I am raising 2 gentle and caring boys, who will hopefully grown into gentlemen.
My husband was smacked and beaten in the name of Christian parenting...it has done him untold damage and his relationship with his parents is strained.
I raised three perfectly well functioning kids, two boys and one daugther, without ever laying a finger on them--in fact I cannot remember ever punishing any of them.
"Dare to Discipline" was published at a time when Christian conservatives thought that the main reason behind juvenile delinquency was lack of strong family leadership.
We all know that it is more deeper than that not least of which has to do with economic oportunities.
"Dare to Discipline" was published at a time when Christian conservatives thought that the main reason behind juvenile delinquency was lack of strong family leadership.
We all know that it is more deeper than that not least of which has to do with economic oportunities.
No. Especially since you included the "yes, I believe there should be a limit" quote. Maybe if more children were disciplined and told no, there wouldn't be as many kids taking shotguns to school or videotaping them beating up another classmate.
Part of the criteria in determining whether or not a parent did a good job in child rearing is to look at the kids when they become adults. I don't listen to Focus on the Family and it's been months since I've heard Dr. Laura, but none of their children have made headlines, nor, it seems, have gotten in trouble with the law. They must be doing something right.
Part of the criteria in determining whether or not a parent did a good job in child rearing is to look at the kids when they become adults. I don't listen to Focus on the Family and it's been months since I've heard Dr. Laura, but none of their children have made headlines, nor, it seems, have gotten in trouble with the law. They must be doing something right.
Spanking children is not child abuse. Making your children cry is not child abuse. Punching them in the face because they broke a full bottle of whiskey IS child abuse.
I get worried when liberals and atheists define child abuse. I have even heard atheists claim that teaching children to believe in God and the Bible is child abuse.
I get worried when liberals and atheists define child abuse. I have even heard atheists claim that teaching children to believe in God and the Bible is child abuse.
focus on the family is part of the devil's lie. they are trying to made self-change instead of a regenration by the power of the Holy Spirit ( Born Again Christians).
Tit 3:3 For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.
Tit 3:4 But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared,
Tit 3:5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost;
Tit 3:6 Which he shed on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Saviour;
Tit 3:7 That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.
Tit 3:8 This is a faithful saying, and these things I will that thou affirm constantly, that they which have believed in God might be careful to maintain good works. These things are good and profitable unto men.
Tit 3:3 For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.
Tit 3:4 But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared,
Tit 3:5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost;
Tit 3:6 Which he shed on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Saviour;
Tit 3:7 That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.
Tit 3:8 This is a faithful saying, and these things I will that thou affirm constantly, that they which have believed in God might be careful to maintain good works. These things are good and profitable unto men.
No, I think Focus on the Family IS child abuse.
As for spanking, people are individuals (and children are people too) and one size does not fit all. Some children will need to be spanked at times and some will not. Spanking should ALWAYS be the last resort. It's up to the parent to work at being a good enough parent to know what is required in each situation for their child.
As for spanking, people are individuals (and children are people too) and one size does not fit all. Some children will need to be spanked at times and some will not. Spanking should ALWAYS be the last resort. It's up to the parent to work at being a good enough parent to know what is required in each situation for their child.
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